Posts by jamira

2018

Posted by on Jan 8, 2022 in Life Life, Mom Life | 5 comments

2018 was the year that I had my #clothesupchallenge. Yes, you read that right, “My Clothes UP Challenge.”  It was after I had my daughter. I was not confident in myself. Confidence was a struggle that I had since I was a little girl.  I did not like how I dressed.  I felt like I had no style.  Let’s be honest. I did NOT have style!  I made one of the longest posts on Facebook that I had ever made in my life.  I made it on Facebook so that it could be an accountability situation making it public.  However, I did not have the guts to do it on Instagram to complete strangers who would judge me and my mission.  Although, in my post, I did express how I did not care what people thought and said, I was not ready for the IG trolls that would probably come with it.

In my post, my challenge was to essentially “dress better.”  I would be intentional with my outfits. I declared that I would wear heels more often, accessorize, wear makeup and wear my hair in different styles.  Yes, I did complete my challenge the 365 days of 2018.  Did I succeed?  I would say that I passed AND failed.  I was indeed intentional with choosing my daily outfits.  Unfortunately, I did not really wear makeup.  I wore my hair like I usually do, down or in a ponytail.  Accessories, nope, not really.  I put too much on myself trying to add those things all at once.

I did learn SO MUCH that year.  Here are the main takeaways.

  1. I was not the only person who felt the way I did about myself.  Family and friends privately shared that they felt the same way about themselves and I had NO CLUE. Child, you are not alone!
  2. People were not aware that I felt the way that I did about myself.
  3. I was wearing the WRONG size clothes.
  4. I did not wear much color.
  5. Quite a few people did not like a pair of flats that I wore a lot. They were my crutch!!
  6. My cousin hated that I wore a particular pair of boots ALL THE TIME. Another crutch! lol
  7. Stylists have a gift and we should allow them to help us without shame.
  8. My daughter watched me every day and always smiled.

Are there challenges in life that you are experiencing others may not be aware of?

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Fear

Posted by on Jan 8, 2022 in God Life, Life Life | 4 comments

It took me a long time to write this.  I mean, literally, years in the making. Fear stopped me.  First things first, I must apologize to you for not doing this sooner.  We all have something in us that is not just for ourselves.  We should share.  I loved writing. I love writing.  My writing was blocked.  For a very long time.  I have hurts from the past that I have not gotten over.  If I am really honest, I held myself back.  I didn’t think that I could do this.  These past few weeks leading up to this day, I pretty much said to myself, “yes, I’m going to do this.” “I have to do this.” “No one is going to read it.” “I will run out of things to say.” “No, I’m definitely going to go for it.” 

I am in awe of so many people who have done and are still doing great things.  I know people who are literally doing AMAZING things.  Inside of me, I feel like there is something. But somehow, for some reason, I can’t seem to get out of my own way.  Out of my own head.  All I know is, I just love to share. I love people.  I love to see happy, smiling people.

So here I am. Writing. Sharing. Hoping to make you smile, laugh or feel like you are not alone.

My biggest takeaways about me going for it, simply pushing through the fear:

  1. If I didn’t do this now, I’m not sure if/when I would do this.
  2. No one may read what I have to say, but maybe someone will. 
  3. I’m literally putting myself out there. I am VERY aware of this.
  4. There will always be something to say.

Are there areas where fear has prevented you from moving forward?

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